So...I've tweaked some of it. If you want to read the original, its here, on Purposefairy.com.
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Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them,
will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many
things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead
of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be happier and more stress
free – we cling to them. Not anymore. Try giving up on things that no longer
serve you, and embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending
great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for
others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump
into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would
I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What
difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything
that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether
they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just
allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are. Do this
also for yourself. It’s powerful medicine—both for us and our ‘others’.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won
by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao
Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what
you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your
powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because
of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t
believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used
wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or
impossible. We have more capacity to grow and change and be happy than we
usually trust. Thinking outside the box often leads to significant discoveries
outside the box.
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about
those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you
unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable. It’s our response to others--‘endorsing’ the
misery--that makes us suffer. It’s not the situation that triggers those
feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it..
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that
are different than you. We are all different, yet we all are also so similar.
We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be
understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to
make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment we stop trying so
hard to be something that we’re not, the moment we take off our masks, the
moment we accept and embrace the real ‘us’, we will find people who like us for
who we are instead of who we have to remember and pretend to be.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Stasis is good. For
living things to be in stasis, it means they’ve found the balance in taking in
the new and sloughing off the old. To be unchanging is to be dead.
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events
that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your
mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Stop reacting from fear. Instead, listen to what your
thoughts and feelings may be advising you to run from and then consciously
choose what’s appropriate.
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Both in conversations with our ‘selves’ and with others.
Instead of self-Justification, we practice honesty and self-Appreciation.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
This doesn’t mean ignoring or forgetting our history—but choosing,
wisely, how what we’ve learned in the past guides present choices.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
Attachment is to not let go of certain feelings, thoughts,
people, things, etc.—never mind if these things or good bad for us and those
around us. A life of attachment means we're lugging around 4 suitcases full of our favorite 'blankies' (security blankets).
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S
EXPECTATIONS
